Posted by:
rander70
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Date: July 20, 2012 01:23PM
So... I had to borrow money from my TBM mum last night because I am having car troubles. She is truly an angel in my life. She always helps me out when I am in trouble and never asks to be paid back. I told her I would pay her back with payments anyway, and needed to work out a few things first and then I would call her back. When I called her back to work out the few details, she said, "Hey! I know how you can pay me back. It wont cost you anything."
"Oh yeah? What is that?"
"Go to church!"
"MOM!"
"*laughs* You know you need it, and so does (fiance)"
"I dont know mom..."
"Not ready, huh?"
"I just dont think that is a good reason."
Then I changed the subject quickly. SHE TRIED TO BRIB ME INTO GOING TO CHURCH. I have caught her doing some sneaky things like this before. Like "Oh! well if you guys are going to do a civil marriage, then you need to go talk to a bishop so he can marry you guys." Or "Hey, if you need a therapist you can always go talk to your bishop." Ah... no thanks mum... I know what you are trying to do.
The thing that bothers me the most about this is she (actually both my parents) have never bothered to ask me why I am not going to church anymore. This leads me to believe they are making assumptions. Maybe I am too lazy, or dont have a good support system, or I feel like I have sinned to much... etc. The communication lines in my family are completely shot due to a very totalitarianism system in my family. I want it to stop. I want to be able to talk to my family without walking on egg shells. Is that to much to ask? That is why I pulled my sister aside a few weeks ago to talk about the church and how I want our family to be more open with each other. I even told her who I lost my virginity to. Me and my siblings are afraid to go against anything my parents taught us because they would look at us as being disrespectful or rebellious and petty. I feel like they think of me as a robot that they programmed, and are now making assumptions as to why it's not working the way they wanted it to.
I have been contemplating how we (me and my sister) want to "come out" to our family about this. Me and my sister are just thinking about sending in our resignation, and telling our family to respect our decision. It may be kind of a shock, but we want out, and if our family wont bother to ask us why we left then that is not necessarily our problem. They are choosing to cover their ears.
I will only propose the reasons to them if they ask "Why" followed by me asking "Are you sure you want to know?"
I dont want to use the word "cult" but I may use "mind control." I will list examples under each category of mind control to show them just how dangerous this church is.
Do you guys think this is a good plan? Do you think it's too harsh? Both my parents are wonderful, sensative people, BUT GODDAMN ARE THEY STUBBORN AS HELL. I dont know what else to do.