Posted by:
imaworkinonit
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Date: July 28, 2012 11:13AM
about how over protectiveness hurts children in the long run. So that's my bias this morning.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2011/07/how-to-land-your-kid-in-therapy/8555/#.UBGDOMqLSsc.facebookIf you anticipated that your family was going to be mean or nasty to your kids, that would be one thing. But kids need to learn to deal with uncomfortable situations like death, hearing things you don't agree with, and hanging out with people who believe differently than they do.
I have a very vivid memory of walking up to my grandmother's casket when I was seven. It was scary and strange (she was also scary when she was alive ;-), but I think it was an important part of recognizing her passing. Funerals aren't easy, but they are part of the reality of death and loss. Kids need to learn to deal with it.
These types of events always end with a car ride home where we talk with each other about what happened, what was taught, and usually a few weird interactions with TBM family. When the kids were younger, it would be a teaching moment. Basically, we process the weirdness on the way home.