Posted by:
anagrammy
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Date: August 08, 2012 11:41AM
Few can leave as great a legacy as yours for humanity.
Responding to a few posters above, disengaging from a world view is a far bigger transition than just leaving a religion. If you leave the Methodists, for example, you have left an idea about God and your place in the universe which may be mostly identical with your new church, the Lutherans.
Even becoming a Jew still involves the Old Testament and Abraham, Noah and the lot.
Many people don't understand that Mormonism is a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT WORLD VIEW of who God is/was and who we are/were. When you leave Mormonism, you leave an identity -- remember how many times they said, "Remember who you are"
Identifying as an exmormon gives you an instant identity and belonging that allows you to express your anger, grief, loneliness and betrayal. With other exmormons you have someone who instantly understands why it would be necessary and painful to leave a church you love--even at the risk of your marriage.
Over time, you work out your living situation as an exmormon, your work, you start using your free time to discover and expand on who you are now that you are no longer a unit in a collective mind. The discovery of your talents, which never had time to bloom, is so refreshing and exciting. Who knew I could draw? Write? Golf? Ski? Train dogs for the blind? Teach the illiterate to read?
Every one of us has undiscovered talents and interests--and we are all to a degree creatures of habit. Once you have come to RfM and laughed, found inspiration, made some friends who seem to always be awake, it is just too easy to curl up with your computer and boom! Two hours is gone...
There comes a day for each of us when we are reading here and we are bored. We have heard that post before, and the next, and the next. Only the current event posts have any interest. What crazy sh*t has been going on in the wards or in the place where you served your mission, or with the GA's. You yourself have no real on-topic Mormon-related drama to post and you don't really understand any more why you can't resist coming to RfM.
It is the drama that attracts and distracts. It is entertainment. It's something you know about and can make an instant contribution. And here's the clincher--it makes you feel better by comparison. At least you are not stuck with a MIL like that guy, or struggling with a TBM family like that poster--they are so mean!
When I leave RfM, the grass is greener, the sky is bluer, I feel luckier and happier.... until I didn't need anything to make me feel that way. I just pretty much always felt happier and appreciative, with the world open to me without limitation to explore everything I have missed while being Mormon.
I've been out of the church for decades now and there are a few of us old timers who take the time to post for newcomers. It is helpful to know that life after Mormonism can end up being better, yes BETTER, for having been Mormon. I'm going to post more about that another day.
Meanwhile, I have my sketch-walk to do and The Biography of Hedy Lamarr and Steve Jobs waiting on my kindle.
Namaste Simon
Anagrammy