Posted by:
Mujun
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Date: August 25, 2012 09:12PM
Overall, my experience with those still in the fold has been good in the eight years or so since I reached my own conclusions and made my journey out. A physical relocation at around the same time provided a natural break. The Mormons in the town where we live now have never known us as participating members.
My wife and daughter are still on the membership lists. We're all effectively out, so I respect my wife's decision not to resign, especially since we notice very few effects. Apparently, we do have an assigned home teacher, but he's someone who was legitimately a friend before he was even aware of the church connection, and he totally respects our space. A few times each year, we get something in the mail like a birthday card or a newsletter. We don't live behind the Zion Curtain, so Mormonism is something that has truly become incidental with us. We're not confronted with it regularly at all.
Last week, however, my daughter answered the telephone at home and was greeted by the local ward's executive secretary. He said he was calling to schedule a bishop's interview for her in connection with her recent birthday.
This guy and I are going to have a brief conversation within the next few days. My daughter is a minor. For some adult male she doesn't know to call her on the phone and tell her he wants to set up a meeting for her with another adult male she doesn't know is, to use a favorite word from the Mormon vernacular, inappropriate. To use a word that would come to mind for most of the rest of the world, it's creepy. Once again, it's the mentality that the normal rules of social propriety, personal boundaries and common courtesy don't apply when you're on the Lord's errand.
Fortunately, my daughter was smart enough to tell him to talk to her dad. He and/or his boss will get that chance.
Thus spake Mujun.