Posted by:
runtu
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Date: October 01, 2012 11:44AM
Last night my wife and I were talking before we went to sleep. She had gone to church alone, which always makes me feel bad, but I just can't make myself go anymore. The night before she had gone to the RS general meeting in Salt Lake, and last week she had attended the broadcast of the Brigham City temple dedication.
Anyway, she said that the spirit was really strong at all three meetings. She then reminded me that we had attended the Mt. Timpanogos temple dedication years ago, and we had sat in the second row, right behind Packer. She said she remembered how strong and vital he seemed in leading the hosanna shout (I thought he had looked bored and monotone) but how weak he seemed last week.
She said it felt like things had come "full circle," and she didn't have to say anything to tell me she was feeling sad and disappointed that I'm not partaking of such things with her. For a moment I thought she was just guilt-tripping me, but I think she just feels alone spiritually.
I hate knowing that she and everyone else in the church think that I am broken, that our marriage is damaged goods. But I just listened and didn't reply, as I didn't think anything I could have said would have helped.
The worst is that I know it's the church that is constantly rebuilding the walls between us, but it will always be my fault. I'm too tired to even feel angry about it anymore. It just makes me really sad.