Posted by:
Carol Y.
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Date: October 15, 2012 07:39PM
Some forum members are familiar with the story of how, in 2010, my mother lured me to buy out my siblings, using money from my recent home sale, with the promise that she would deed her house to me, come the following Spring. Now I realize that she smelled money, a nice big portion of it for herself. To make a long story short, after I bought them out, she quietly reneged on her part of agreement, even denying that she had ever really proposed the idea. Naturally, I was very upset. Then, a few months later, in June 2011, after spreading a vicious smear campaign to everyone she could, and alienating me from about five friends and family members, she quietly retreated and went to live with my brother. After a few months of calm, she began her constant phone harassment several times a week, during which time she was also talking with my TBM EX, causing him to fly into a rage over my so called mistreatment of her. She had told him, and several others, that I had kicked HER out. She also got him to extort a very large sum of money from me, which he sends to her in an allotment every month. Deed done! That's what she wanted.
After my going No Contact with her for over a year, she recently dropped the 'BOMB'. In late August, my brother visited me with the news. Yes, I was to be out of HER house by Nov.1 of this year. Once again, she used a male 'flying monkey' to do her dirty work. That term is from 'The Wizard of OZ' where the wicked witch used flying monkeys to do her errands. My brother, who has been trying to stay neutral, lowered his guard for a moment, and told me that she is just relishing what she is doing to me. Personality disordered people get a tremendous 'high' from other people's pain. It's like a drug that they can't get enough of. Also, they will accuse the other person of doing the very thing that they have thought of doing. In this case, she kicked ME out, after she had convinced several others that I had kicked HER out.
Their logic is totally backward. Telling a PD person that you want No Contact is the attention they want, even though negative, and they will try all the harder to make contact. They are emotional vampires that will suck every bit of self esteem, money, etc.,that they can from their target. No wonder those of us who have encounted these demons have emotional breakdowns, heart attacks, and even commit suicide.
The rest of the story is that I was able to find a decent low cost house to buy, with my brother's help. He even offered to buy ME out, but I declined, as he's strapped. My sisters kept their share of the buyout, and have written me off. So, there goes another chunk of my retirement savings. Fortunately, this is an investment, and will pay off somewhere down the line, either for me, or my children.
Moral of the story: Never take a person's word, even if you think you trust them. Get it in writing. You never know when you are dealing with a wolf in sheep's clothing, especially when it comes to relatives.