Posted by:
behindcurtain
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Date: October 29, 2012 09:46PM
A Mormon ward is much worse than a fraternity.
A fraternity or sorority is much better because college students are beginning their adult lives, but they are still young and inexperienced. In fraternities, young people band together with other young people and make their own rules. No older adults are involved. Fraternity brothers feel a sense of equality. They are all at the same stage of live. They are setting sail into the great unknown together. In contrast, in a student ward students are expected to act as if they know everything already. They must behave as if there is no great unknown to explore. They can't experiment with alternate ways of living. The future is set in stone: go on a mission, marry, serve in the Church. They must please their elders, who obviously know everything.
Fraternity brothers still interact with adults, but these adults are not their "masters". Many adults like to interact with young people so they can "show them the ropes." Fraternity brothers learn a lot when they talk with adults. They learn a lot about college majors, a lot about careers, a lot about graduate school. They learn how to please women and how to establish a satisfying life. Mormon bishops are not the same kind of adults. Mormon bishops rarely talk about college majors, careers, or pleasing women. They don't have much to say about establishing a satisfying life. Instead, they scare, annoy, and frustrate college students with lectures about how premarital sex is bad. They conduct personal interviews in which they listen to the sexual lives of students. They dish out bad advice in these interviews. They often wish they weren't bishops because their task of controlling students' sexual lives is such a chore and such a failure. They don't bond with students like an adult would bond with a fraternity brother. Instead of being a genuine mentor and friend, they are a guilt inducing religious leader.
Fraternity brothers can go to church, but they can pick where, when, and if they go. Those who go to non-Mormon churches freely mingle with a great many adults who love to help them out in life. In contrast, BYU college students have no choice; they must go to one particular Mormon church every week. They don't get to mingle with many adults. They have to attend a singles ward which stunts their growth; they cannot connect with adults who would genuinely help them.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 10/29/2012 09:48PM by behindcurtain.