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Date: November 11, 2012 04:31AM
I'd rather have someone passion-less, than someone abusive or too weird.
Bear in mind that the following is from an experienced woman's point of view:
If YOU are great in bed, it doesn't matter all that much if your partner is a dud! Lighten up. Laugh as much as possible before and after, but never make fun of your partner. Try to improve the relationship outside the bedroom. If you have serious, deal-breaking issues, you need to address those in a neutral setting. Never coach or criticize during love-making. Read books, talk to someone who knows (not your bishop), and do what you can to improve YOUR end of things. Often a bad partner is too disinterested to even want help.
That said, YOU can spice things up on your own. Be irresistible! Shower, shave, put on scent, light candles or a cozy fire, wear something fun (not garments), Don't be too forced or fake. just sit there, reading the paper or watching TV. I adore men in a short-sleeved CLEAN tee shirt and plaid pajama bottoms. Women have success with fabrics that are touchable, though men prefer nudity, go figure. Visuals are powerful! So are smells. Have your partner choose the scent. Keep your bedroom, closet, and bathroom nice, at all times. It is your stage. Men like mirrors (women don't). Food is seductive. Music can set a mood. But be subtle.
Happy, smiling people make the best sex partners, IMO. Be glad you have your spouse! Appreciate her/him, and praise him/her. This can't be faked, but I'm sure there is something you like about your spouse. Don't wait for someone else to make the first move. I was talking to some man friends about how often they had sex, and one guy said the sex was great, but he had to make the first move. I said, "So what." My advice is not to wait for your spouse to make the first move. If you are rejected, laugh it off, and have sex with your great-looking self.