Posted by:
Ctus
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Date: January 14, 2013 01:04AM
I am so damn mad right now, I can't even see straight.
I'll try and be quick.
I have relatives coming into town for a day and they wanted to take my kids and I to dinner. I talked to the kids and told them and they were very excited. When I talked to my ex about it she said they couldn't because they have mutual that night. We ended up in an argument, her points being, well her point was it is a church thing, that's all she has....
My points are:
1. It's one fooking night, one activity! So what if they miss one thing?
2. I don't have a bunch of nearby relatives like she does, both my parents are dead and I almost never get to do things like this with my kids.
3. The kids WANT to miss Mutual and go to dinner.
4. My oldest two are 18 year old twins (seniors, one of each, that's important, so remember) Aren't 18 year olds old enough to make that decision?
5. They miss church and activities, when it's important to HER.
There were more points, I'm sure.
The one issue I can understand adding weight to her argument is that the twins are both presidents of their respective classes, laurels and priests. (See? I told you the boy/girl issue was going to come up) But, like I said, she occasionally has trips, or relatives or other things that SHE allows to interfere with church and certainly with activities.
Anyhow, I talked to them, they were excited. I talked to her, she was not. She talked to them, they were no longer excited. Not only were they no longer excited, but upset about being put in the middle of it. The only reason they were in the middle of it is because she disallowed two eighteen year-olds (plus two younger kids) to make the decision on their own to miss one fucking mutual activity to be with their father and relatives. I know this evil, black hearted woman and I know the guilt ridden lectures that she loves to give. She yells and bitches and guilts and wears them down until they give in just to shut her up.
This is the very same woman who recently (okay, a year ago, but still) married the man she was living with for FOUR years AND who she was having an affair with while we were married. I have no problem with anyone who chooses to live together, but the point is, she finally decided to live HER religion and now demands perfection and "proper" choices from those around her.
I have thus far chosen not to "hate" this evil, self righteous, controlling woman, but it's getting harder and harder.