Posted by:
goat
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Date: March 24, 2013 04:53PM
I'm feeling frustrated and I just want to whine a little bit. I married in school, had kids in school. Pressured there by the church. I didn't know what I wanted. I didn't even know what to really look for in a mate except that she was LDS. I learned to gloss over differences because they weren't important, what really matters is that she read her scriptures. Fast forward to today, i'm out she's in. We're very different people, i'm active and adventurous, she's safety and security oriented. If I could go back knowing what I know now I would have waited a few more years to actually get to know myself (which happened when I finally let go of trying to "be" the right person for the church) and I can confidently say what "I" really want. Now I have a few kids, I love my wife, and sometimes I just get frustrated that she feels like a ball and chain sometimes (only because I want to explore and she just says no because it's easier and safer). I'm not talking about drinking and smoking, i'm talking about taking an extra 20 minutes on the way home from work to go look at something, or let my daughter go out and play while I grab something and go out after her. She's very over protective must have eyes on at all times and the like.
Anyway, there's nothing wrong with her, there's nothing wrong with me. We just tend to have different viewpoints on life and it happens to be clashing right now. I sometimes feel pretty alone because I can't talk to anybody that really understands where I am at and I also don't like to talk about my wife to other people because I don't want to reinforce walls that I put up, I would rather work things through with her. I'll never be able to tell her or my friends or family that I might be happier having married somebody else. I'm not interested in looking for a divorce though, as I do really love her and my kids. So I am venting on an anonymous internet board.