Posted by:
mysid
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Date: March 24, 2013 07:40AM
I've never had that "problem" in my marriage, but I do know couples in which the woman earns more. It's generally not a problem unless the couple--or interfering relatives--have sexist gender role expectations.
I know one couple in which the wife had a job with health benefits and the husband didn't, so they decided he would quit work and be the primary caretaker of their infant daughter. He was an amazing dad, and as she grew up, he spent a lot of time teaching her. His mother-in-law once boasted to me that she could write her name, say the alphabet, etc., etc., while only two, and gave dad credit for teaching her--but the same woman was bitching him out the day before because, "He should be supporting his family instead of my daughter doing it." Make up your mind, lady. Either he's an amazing stay-at-home parent or a freeloader, not both.
My mom works in a public school, and she says that situation is becoming the norm. Many of the teachers in her school are women of childbearing age (that translates to late 20's and early 30's outside the Morridor). The teachers generally have better financial incentives to keep working (health insurance, earning toward a pension, etc.) than their husbands. Moms keep working, and the dads care for the kids.
My mom earns more than my dad, and it's not an issue--now. When he sold his business, he was too young to retire, but too old to easily get a job. He floundered for a while. While he was not working, tensions got very high between my parents. She said to me that she didn't care if he got a job at McDonald's as long he was doing *something* and bringing *some* money in. Sure enough, he did eventually get a job that was a real step down for him (but not fast food), but as soon as he did, the tension and fighting stopped.