Hey guys, I have been out of the church for about 4 months now. Sometimes its kinda rough realizing how much of your life and money you've wasted on the con-artist Joe Smith's scheme. I was wondering what coping skills you folks have used to help you get on with life? Especially those who have been on missions. Thanks!
Beer, Whiskey, and Rum. Okay, just kidding... sort of. I found another religion and I've become active in it. It's more about having a 1-on-1 relationship with God and not so much about following rules. I know a lot on here have found atheism. Just curious if you still believe in God, I know it's probably none of my business.
posting here is a good coping skill. It helps to talk to others that have experienced the same thing. I'm not an RM though but I was BIC and my family is still very TBM except for me.
I've read Robert Moody's, "Life After Life." That has helped me with my spirituality and a hope in a afterlife. But it still sucks to think that you've lost 2 years of your life to that cult. I kinda knew it wasn't true before my mission. I could tell there was something fishy going on. I just didn't want to let my family down.
RfM is my only real outlet besides talking to my wife. She and I served our missions (Japan, Cambodia). Where'd you serve? Always fun to compare and share experiences, that's also a good coping tool.
I find that I do a lot of things "anti" Mormon, just to break old habits and to cement in my mind that I wont be smitten down for taking a sip of wine, or burn in hell because I enjoy coffee.
Recently I made a donation to the local Buddist temple and said some chants for fun with the help of a monk.
Before that I threw away all my Mormon pictures and stuff away.
I also like to have a read on Mormonthink.com every once in a while.
That's just a few things I've done, but I think in general the most helpful is to realize that Mormonism being false isn't the end of the world, but rather, the beginning of a wonderful new set of possibilities and wonder. Sure I am very bitter towards the church, but I am so happy now that I am free and it makes the morning coffee that much sweeter.
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JohnStockton12 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > ... I was wondering > what coping skills you folks have used to help you > get on with life? Especially those who have been > on missions.
Knowing there are others like you helps. Be patient with yourself and take it as it comes and you'll gradually recover and become a new more powerful version of you.