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frogdogs
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Date: April 19, 2013 11:44AM
I have pretty much despaired of my TBM mom ever coming to a realization that mormonism is a fraud. She is one person in particular (due to remaining married to my ex-mo dad all these decades) who has had ample access to all the material she would ever need to come to such a conclusion. She's refused to avail herself of any of them.
Over the years I've read a few things that go into some of the psychology of how we tend to over-value and refrain from criticizing actions, beliefs, paths taken once we've made up our minds and especially if we've invested a lot of time, effort and money. It's intensely painful to realize it was all for nothing, and it was all wasted on something foolish, fraudulent, hurtful, wrong, etc. So we do the cog-dis tango over and over rather than go through that pain.
This was one of the best books I read that covered cognitive dissonance spread over a wide variety of topics. Highly recommended, and useful when trying to understand why those presented with a blinding light refuse to even glance in its direction:
http://www.amazon.com/Mistakes-Were-Made-But-Not/dp/0156033909/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1366385694&sr=8-1&keywords=Mistakes+Were+Made