Posted by:
StepMonster93
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Date: April 19, 2013 05:05PM
The other thread was closed, but I wanted to say thank you for the feedback, suggestions, etc...
As some of you acknowledged, being a Step-Parent in this situation is a bit limiting for me in how things get handled. My gut says, "Oh hell no, you do what we say when we say it." - but neither my husband nor I want to be tyrants. This is just a small battle in the war for her to think for herself and not "tow the line" so to speak of any religion. We fully believe that she is "active" solely because she lives in Utah - a peer pressure thing - being the only Non-Mormon in your entire class can be a bit ostracizing. If her mother had kept her in the city of her birth, she would know very little about the Church if anything at all. Our concern is the blind devotion without questioning and concluding herself that family time is more important than what she thinks she was told it meant to "Honor the Sabbath"
She has already threatened to "never come over on Sundays" - unfortunately there is no legal custody agreement in place, so without hiring lawyers there is no real way to FORCE her to spend time with us on Sundays. (yeah, I know - whole other can of worms right there) So we have to tread lightly with this in order to maintain a relationship at all.
I think DH is going to approach it from the "What do you think God would really want you to do?" standpoint. He is planning on having a real heart to heart talk with her tomorrow morning (while I am at work). I am going to suggest he invite her to bring her Bible to read in the car and she chooses not to bring one, we have plenty here she can use. - I guess we will see how it plays out.
Thanks again.