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sstone
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Date: June 23, 2013 09:58AM
And my husband approached me last night to tell me that he had just "talked to her" and she wants to get baptized.
Well, of course she wants to get baptized! She loves her Dad, and he really, really, really wants this. I didn't think it would hit me so hard, but I hate how the church manipulates children into doing something they don't understand.
I mean, don't get me wrong, I know other religions practice infant baptism, but at least no one is under the illusion that it is the baby's choice to get baptized. What Mormons practice is the equivalent to infant baptism because no normal child would want to disappoint their parents, which means they don't really have a choice. But it's worse than infant baptism because they are given the impression that they DO have a choice! It just makes me so angry!
And worse, still, is the fact that my daughter is emotionally and socially behind her peers because she is aspergerish. I can't tell you how many people have been trying to help her step out of her imaginary world in order to interact with the world around her. For a long time she would prefer to crawl on the floor and pretend to be a dog rather than stand up straight and speak her mind. But now she is doing it! She's actually talking, expressing herself, and making friends.
So now that she's made these wonderful strides, my DH pulls her aside and asks her if she wants to be baptized. It was to be expected, I know that. But there's no way in hell that my DD knows what she's getting into! And there's also no way in hell that she would have said "no" and disappointed her own father!
"Do you want to come to the baptism?" my DH asks me in the midst of informing me what our daughter "wants." I'm not sure I can express how my stomach dropped when he phrased that question like he hoped I'd say no.
"Or course I'm coming," I told him. "DD is my daughter."
I knew this was coming but it hurts so much more than I thought it would. What is it about emotions that they have a way of stopping you dead in your tracks. I need to find a way to put on a smile for my daughter. Any suggestions?
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/23/2013 10:00AM by sstone.