My theory is that many TBM's relationships to the church are a bit like a bad marriage:

* there was initially love and genuine strong feelings but over time those feelings have gradually diminished
* one partner is constantly unfairly demanding, expresses little gratitude and accuses the other of not pulling their weight and never being good enough
* conformity, routine, obligation and fear have replaced feelings of love, excitement and fun
* one partner seeks to hide their unsavoury past. A past which if it had been known, may have stopped the individual entering the relationship in the first place
* one parter demands constant gifts but offers almost nothing in return
* one partner always knows best and doesn't listen to the other
* in some cases there is clear abuse, but one partner has been so worn down over the years that they fail to recognise this, let alone act on it
* any detrimental aspect of the relationship is completely the fault of one partner since the other is perfect
* one is threatened should they ever choose to leave
* one is forced to do all the cleaning, even after paying more than enough money to cover the cost of a cleaner
* many are not even aware that divorce is an option. When they do become aware, they're manipulated to think that this would be failure and solely their own fault.
* one seeks to silence and discredit any of the partner's friends who dare to highlight faults and who try to steer them from the harmful relationship

Is it any surprise that so many members of the church are falling out of love with TSCC.

Good analogy

Great post sherlock

Also, if you leave they will fight to take your kids & family away from you.

Awesome post! Hopefully this new reactivation plan will be the final straw for some of these members and also inactive people who didn't feel the need to resign before,/but will now. I hope this backfires on lds inc.

RFM serves as the counseling service to open the eyes of the abused and provide the perspective needed to escape this unhealthy relationship.


This posting is a keeper.

Love the post :)

Priceless, but don't forget the abuse.

One partner verbally abuses the other, blaming and shaming them while failing to acknowledge effort or improvement.

One partner punishes others in front of them and threatens them with the same if they leave.

A previous partner called the authorities over mistreatment and was ridiculed, then divorced.

and there are children in the relationship.

They withhold sex from you then are disappointed and hurt when you tug your weinie.