Posted by:
moroniandcheese
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Date: July 20, 2013 06:32PM
Just wanted to weigh in while I can. A few things:
1) Taking a stand against Patriarchy =/= hating men. Just as speaking out against endemic racism/homophobia is not the same as hating white/straight people. Both women and men are guilty of enforcing the trappings of patriarchy. There are many reasons for this, but there is one I will address. In a patriarchy, the social value of women is determined by a narrow set of parameters (this is true of men as well, but the parameters are a different set). If these parameters happen to play to your strengths and situation, there will be a strong incentive to maintain the status quo.
**WE GET TO TALK ABOUT THIS!! It isn't "whining". One in six women will be a victim of sexual assault in her lifetime ONE IN SIX! This is in addition to being paid the same with a bachelors degree as men are paid with a diploma and hitting the "glass ceiling". Just because a woman may have been horrible to you once does not me that we should sit down and shut up.
2) Feminism is good for men too (at least "non-conventional" men). As stated above, gender roles exist, those who conform to them are socially rewarded and those who are not are socially punished. Breaking down gender roles and opening up options women in turn should open up options for men. ex: male nurses and flight attendants used to face significant social punishment. This has changed quite a bit. In the future, hopefully, some men will be able to choose to be stay at home Dads without fear of social punishment as well.
3) Even if everything from Evolutionary Psychology were true, IT DOES NOT MATTER. in as far as it is a science and not a pseudoscience (not too far, IMHO) it is DESCRIPTIVE, not PROSCRIPTIVE. Saying that it is fine for men to mistreat women because they are "wired that way" is as silly as saying that all black people should move back to Africa because their skin is better adapted to large amounts of sunlight. It is inappropriate to use past evolutionary pressures that may or may not have existed as a means of controlling another's behavior to your liking. IE: I don't care that you look like a hunter and that your physique was selected for. I do not care what your IQ is, *I* get to decide if I am attracted to you or not.