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Date: August 05, 2013 12:39PM
There's an old saying that in order to be happy, every person needs:
Something to do
Something to look forward to
Someone to love
During a difficult time in my life where I argued with myself about whether getting out of bed was actually necessary, I read a book by Julia Cameron, "The Artist's Way." This book was written about twenty years ago to help creative types unblock. It has turned into an enduring best seller because it works as a personality recovery reboot.
One of her suggestions that I carry forward and use even now is the "Artist's Date." This gives you the missing "something to look forward to" when life seems empty.
You create a day of the week where you set aside for a new experience mixed in with activities that you like--BY YOURSELF. For example, you can get a manicure, go out to lunch, have a psychic reading, take a one mile hike to see if salmon are running yet, visit that small museum that you've always been curious about, and stop at the bookstore on the way home.
This last one was amazing because I'd always wondered about people who hang out at the bookstore and read there. Why don't they buy the book and go home to read? Since part of my own recovery was to reach out to new people, I asked them. I was very surprised at the answers.
People were nice and pretty candid, "I can't afford this book and I can't put it down. My husband thinks I'm visiting my mother." and my favorite, "Did my mother send you?"
I found out that people were open and friendly with an occasional grouch. Everywhere I went, my challenge was to speak to the people who were there, even if it was just to say Good Morning.
Before I read Cameron's book, it would never have occurred to me to take a day to provide myself with new experiences as raw material for my creative efforts. Something to look forward to definitely helped cure my depression and provide me with a new hobby and a new outlook on my life other than "a failure."
I always go to You-tube with my cup of coffee in the morning to find out what crazy stuff people are laughing over. Change your chemistry by laughing at these:
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