Posted by:
schlock
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Date: August 16, 2013 12:38PM
"Dependent personality disorder is described as a pervasive and excessive need to be taken care of that leads to a submissive and clinging behavior as well as fears of separation. This pattern begins by early adulthood and is present in a variety of contexts. The dependent and submissive behaviors are designed to elicit caregiving and arise from a self-perception of being unable to function adequately without the help of others."
http://www.psychologytoday.com/conditions/dependent-personality-disorderIf you don't fit into this pattern of thinking and behaving, then you're good, and I say provide as much support as you can to your girlfriend on her journey. However, if this dance you're dancing is also playing off your own insecurities, etc., perhaps you need to reevaluate your motives.
Have you thought about personal counseling, to better explore your own placement in this drama? Might be worthwhile, to engage in individual therapy of your own, in parallel with your girlfriend's therapy.