A girl, who I strongly suspect is my ex, sent me a picture of her vagina out of the blue today. It was under a pseudonym, but had enough personally identifying information about me to freak me out. This girls tries to play it off like it isn't a big deal, like I should love random unexpected genitals texted to me?

This is ridiculous, and pisses me off. This shouldn't be okay for anyone to do regardless of the genders involved.

I guess this shows how people are different. Because with me, unexpected sexting is a treat. Whee, someone's feeling horny and she thought of me! For an old fart like me, that's an honor. And even if someone is only pranking me, I got naughty bits look at.

that is creepy, a naughty pic from an unknown person accompanied by information that isn't widely known about you. really creepy

See? Thank you.

THAT (a female anatomy pic) is absolutely NOTHING.

It gets REALLY creepy when the chick's boyfriend, who happens to have a gun because he also happens to have a badge, shows up to kick your ass, on her whim. THAT is creepy.

What happened to you really is not very creepy, unless you think event A really is a prelude to an event B type of personal violation, something like being beaten up, falsely arrest or having your ID hijacked. Otherwise, you can relax.

Are you kidding?

It is utterly creepy. I think you should report it. Cripes, what else will this person do?

If you are not in a current relationship with the respondent (of the nature that swaps genital pictures), this is totally unacceptable.

My TBM Dad always said 'Cripes' or 'Cripe'.


I still use some of his imitation swear words; how fun !!!



BTW: He would be 101 years of age and was born in Provo, UT

Did you recognize it as her?

Each one is different...



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/23/2013 09:32AM by breedumyung.

It sounds like you need to go and see the bishop and describe the sext to him in as much detail as possible, lol.

2 thoughts:

1. It wasn't a girl - it was Dave from accounting

2. 'random unexpected genitals' - isn't that why most people go out on the weekends?

Just be careful, you could be compromised in some way.

I also think it's creepy and should be reported.

That's not okay. No one should have to be okay with it, regardless of gender. If a guy sent his ex-girlfriend a random picture of his penis, it wouldn't be acceptable. Neither is this.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/23/2013 05:30AM by leafonthewind.

Sounds like bases for a sexual harassment charge. He doesn't want the sexual advances, especially from someone that he wants to distance himself from.

That sounds pretty creepy to me, just because of the circumstances. I hope your ex isn't going psycho on you. Document this.

I suppose it's possible she didn't delete your number yet and sent the picture of her crotch to the wrong dude, and it won't happen again...hopefully?

But I agree, just because you're a guy, doesn't mean you should be pleased with this situation. It sounds a bit creepy.

On a general level, while a little unnerving, I wouldn't worry about a one time random act of sexting. Wrong numbers happen. Let them know they got the wrong number. If it continued, then get upset, report, whatever needs to be done.

Yes, creepy and not okay. It is not okay even though it is a guy receiving the picture.
I don't even know where I would begin if I needed to "report" an unwelcome sexy, and I'm female. Straight to police?

You have been MIND RAPED. You must make an appointment with your bishop so you can confess and start the process of repentance. This would not have happened to you if you had been more faithful by paying extra tithing and scrubbing toilets.

This made me laugh

Keep calm and carry on.

One random event does not a call for releasing the hounds.

If it becomes commonplace, you may need to take action.

("Officer, she sent me a picture of her 'how-do-you-do?', I'm scared"...)

Actually, He should report Sexual harassment as soon as possible that way it's documented and a repeat offense can be taken seriously. Talk with a lawyer or your local law enforcement and see what you should do to get it documented that you in no way wanted this sexual attention and that you want it to stop.

Just like trespassing, it's really hard to get anybody on it for a first offense, but if they do it again after the police know, then it becomes very easy for them to prosecute. (We had some very annoying neighbors that were feeding our horses without knowing what their diet should be, it sickened our horses)

Creepy.

Just head over to your local police station and tell them you'd like to make a report of sexual harassment or what have you, tell them about the pic, show it if you need to, and have an official documentation of it.

If she's a crazy person, you need as much documentation as possible to get that restraining order :>

If you have disputes about child custody, support or other issues with your ex or another woman, then you may have a reason to suspect you're being set up. At the very least maintain suspicion until you can verify. I wouldn't want to associate with this person for the reason that it came unsolicited and they could be a stalker.

However, if you're being set up, you might be able to validate more about it by doing a little detective work--try having a friend text that number and start a conversation. Or better, get a google voice text number and text with this person out of the blue to see if you can get information out of her.

The number is attached to a text over ip service, and looking at their website if I got the police involved, I could get them to release the identity of whoever texted me. I just need to determine if it is worth my time. If it really is the ex girlfriend, I would be worried enough to involve police, she wasn't exactly stable, if not, the fact that they were eerily accurate in describing where I live doesn't make me feel great, either. Either it is a stalker, or some twisted friend (no clue who that would be), at the very least something that worries me.

Wait, if this is a SMS (text) over IP, then how is MMS (picture) being sent? Was it a link to a photo? Or was it an actual MMS photo?

Apparently using textfree.us you can send mms, who knew?

Wow, such strong reactions.

I'm reminded of advice a woman once gave to other women about what to do if some guy exposes himself to you. You don't freak out, because that's the reaction he's looking for. Instead, you laugh at his dick. And if you can't manage a decent laugh, say, "It looks like a penis, only smaller."

It's just body parts we've all seen before, and people doing dumb things. You play into their hands when you make it into something more. Delete and go about your business. It's just junk mail. (Pun intended.)

I would agree if it was just random, but context is key, and indications of it possibly being a stalker make it hard to ignore. They knew where I was living a week ago, I lived there so short no one knew about it but my closest friends, and my roommates of course. The resulting conversation didn't help allay any concerns I had, meaning it is someone who put forth some effort to figure out something about me and to target me specifically with something like this.

Wouldn't you want to involve the police in that case?

Well, I think strong reactions to invasive attempts to force one into any level of unwanted intimacy are often warranted.

I appreciate humor as much as anyone else, and normally say using humor to defuse tense situations can be ideal.

But probably not such a great suggestion to humiliate someone who has already demonstrated he's got an aggressive, less-than-civilized streak - the potential for escalation is something to keep in mind.

As for the OP being texted an unwanted picture of the ex's genitalia, I'm with the rest of the responders who recommended he notify the sender they sent it to the wrong number, give them a chance to never repeat the offense - but if it happens again, I'd go to the police.

the genitals belong to someone other than the person who sent them? That happened to me once.

good grief how hold is she? sexting is for trashy no class 20 somethings and teens who don't know any better. Right now I'd go the "wrong number" route and if it does happen again notify police. or you can plaster it on the internet with her face right next to it. if she doesn't want it out there she shouldn't make it available.

SO last year EricJr, then 16 met a girl at a dance. She was coming onto him pretty hard and they exchanged numbers.

A few days later she texted him and he did not remember what she looked like so he asked for a picture.

Slutty girl then proceeded to send him 4 spread eagle poses. Jr came to me and showed me and said what should I do?

I found out who the girl was. I found her mother on FB and let her know what her little whore was up to. To my shock this was her response: is the your son's phone under your name and plan? yes. So you have pictures of my naked 16 yr. old daughter in YOUR phone. That is the only crime here, would you like me to report it? Just because you let your son use one of your phones, does not make irresponsible for what is on it.

She was right. We deleted the phone and sold it. Lesson: report ANY unwanted sexual message from any unknown person, because you never know how old that vagina may be, and possession of child porn, or of a picture that should not be in your possession is a life altering mistake.

This is how people get set up by the police and ex wives for a world of hurt.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/23/2013 12:15PM by erictheex.

It's not the fact that she sent you it that's necessarily creepy. There could be plenty of non-creepy (although probably stupid) reasons for sending that picture. I think it is her level of known private information that is creepy about it.

Yeah, you are probably right about that.

I'd get a kick out of it, but simply ignore it. Zero response will cause whoever it is (and it could be some guy trolling you, you can get a nice vag pic anywhere) to tire of the "joke" and go away...



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/23/2013 12:21PM by rationalguy.