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forestpal
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Date: October 29, 2013 10:45PM
Cludgie, I spent a few Christmases and Thanksgivings alone, too, and still do, when my married children are at their in-laws. I would pay attention to my dog, and take her for a long hike, even if it was snowing. Exercise is the best way to fight depression. Everyone is different, but I always felt worse, going out in public, and be that single woman alone among all the couples and families. Sometimes a movie would work, because it would be dark, and no one would see me--but only if it is a really good movie.
I used to save up the very best movie rentals for Thanksgiving or Christmas Eve, to make it a special occasion. Try to find a good movie filmed in Hawaii or the Bahamas. James Bond movies are the most therapeutic for me, and, of course comedies.
I've done charity work a few times, but I do that anyway, and it was especially depressing to come home alone, afterwards. While you are working with other people, you feel better.
Staying late at the office was actually fun, because there were some co-workers there, too, and people brought treats and sparkling cider, which made it more festive. We were all in the same boat.
When I'm very, very lonely and sad, I sometimes do some dirty, unpleasant chore--because I can't get any more depressed. One year, I cleaned out the closets, and put in shelf-paper. I was still sad--but at least I accomplished something. There was something ironic about buying shelf paper on New Year's Eve.
Enjoy your favorite foods--take-out or home-made. Eat the foods that others kid you about. I like little cucumber and cream cheese sandwiches, ginger cookies with real ginger, sweet potato fries, and sparkling grape juice, and See's candy. Give in to it! It is rather pleasant to be "that cat lady" and I make special treats for my dog and cat.
I have broken off contact with my cruel TBM family members, though I tried for a lifetime to get along with them. I always protected my children from their abuse, and my children hardly know them at all, which is a good thing. I have a balance in my life, now, and spend almost every day with my loved ones, yet sometimes long for good old solitude.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 10/29/2013 10:49PM by forestpal.