Posted by:
knotheadusc
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Date: June 13, 2012 08:35AM
To me, it's a sickly sweet infomercial designed to play on the heartstrings of the gullible or the overly sentimental. It sells the church as the cure all for workaholics, bereavement, peer pressure, and bad marriages. And it's false advertising.
The LDS church cannot help anyone overcome any serious problems that they can't overcome on their own. In that film, everyone is so giddy about the prospect of being baptized because it will "bring them closer together" and connect them with their dead daughter. But no mention is made about all the friends and family who will be pushed away because they don't believe the right thing or have the same "standards".
The other day, my husband found one of his very estranged daughters on Facebook. She had dropped my husband's last name in favor of her mother's third husband's. We have reason to believe that my husband's young adult daughters, with whom he had once shared a close and loving relationship, may have been legally adopted by their stepfather. This man was not around during the first years of their lives. He was not the one who took care of them when they were at their most vulnerable. Hell, he wasn't even a legal adult when they were BORN!!
And he was not the one who worked full time throughout their lives to pay for their support. Apparently, LDS convert stepdad mostly sat on his ass playing video games and only recently has started working for a living to support his bio kids with my husband's ex.
My husband converted to the LDS church with his ex wife and kids, thinking it might help them save their marriage. But the LDS church did not save their marriage or my husband's relationships with his children. There's no way that relationship could have been saved because my husband's ex wife is a raging narcissist who doesn't care about anyone but herself. The LDS church is an excellent vehicle for her, because it helps bolster her facade of being a loving, family oriented, churchgoing woman. But the truth is, she's a faker and a liar, just like the church is. And both my husband's former wife and the church are very good at putting on convincing facades that make them look so much better and more appealing than they really are.
So when I see a schmaltzy church video like "On the Way Home", it makes me sick to my stomach because I know it's a big, slick lie full of false promises. It's designed to be used on the weak, the desperate, and the depressed to get them to join a toxic cult. And no one can ever get what that video promises just by joining a church, buying into the magical thinking, and going through the motions.
Anyway, it may sound bad for me to say this, but I am delighted my husband's first marriage didn't work out. I love my husband and am grateful he's with me. I'm grateful to his ex wife for kicking him out. I'm sorry his kids can't see what a fine man their father is, but if being adopted by their mother's husband really brings them peace, I'm all for it. I just wish my husband had met me first and had those kids with me. Because while I don't believe we would have had the rosy family depicted in the church video, the reality would have been a lot closer with me than it ever was with her.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/13/2012 08:36AM by knotheadusc.