Posted by:
Count Chocula
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Date: March 08, 2014 06:11AM
There are lots of reasons why people allow themselves to remain LDS.
Here are three big reasons that I came up with, in reverse order, on why people have difficulty facing the truth about Mormonism:
#3 -- Practical considerations
For many, leaving the Morg is not a viable option because the consequences of "coming out of the closet" are just too painful. Maybe their marriage would fall apart or suffer considerable harm if they were to suddenly cease being LDS. Or, their very own children or grandchildren might be insulted and shun them.
For others, they would become the "black sheep" of the family -- a pariah. In Utah, you might lose employment status, especially if you work for the Church in some capacity. Or, maybe you would be shunned by neighbors or your circle of friends. Additionally, you might have a church calling, e.g. bishop, where people are heavily counting on you. It is virtually impossible being totally honest in such a situation.
In short, there are an awful lot of church members that just don't have the luxury to be totally objective regarding the history and doctrine of TSCC.
#2 -- Emotional reasons
None of us likes to be wrong -- ever. Leaving TSCC means admitting that we were wrong -- on a huge scale. More often than not, it means admitting that those who we have loved and trusted, and who loved us --, e.g. our very own parents -- were wrong. Other extended family members were wrong, as well.
Leaving the church means that church leaders that we have respected and relied upon -- bishop, Primary teachers, SS teachers, youth teachers, Prophet and Apostles, were either wrong or intentionally deceiving us. For many, that conclusion can be painful and difficult to accept .
It requires true humility and a ton of courage to admit that you and loved ones were wrong -- a lot of people are seemingly incapable.
#1 -- Your sense of justice
This is a biggie.
If the LDS church isn't what it claims to be, that means that a lifetime of service, sacrifice, and self-denial has been in vain. Even worse, your peers who are living "the high life" are getting away with it. That can be tough to stomach!
So, while you were obeying the law of chastity and were denied a normal youth and young adulthood, for example, your "immoral" friends do not suffer any apparent consequences for enjoying pleasures of the flesh. Maybe your marriage is in tatters but they have a great marriage. That can be tough to reconcile.
Or, while you spend your Sundays in those mind-numbing and butt-numbing meetings, your friends are out enjoying the weekend. While you abstain from alcohol, pay tithing, attend the temple, wear secret underwear that is unattractive and uncomfortable, normal people who had "lower standards" seem to come out on top.
In other words, the "eat, drink, and be merry" crowd is rewarded while you are banging your head against a brick wall trying to do "God's will." How fair is that? And in the process, maybe you become more psychologically screwed up than your gentile friends. That can really conflict with your sense of justice.
So, understandably, it can be quite difficult for many members to put the above considerations aside and objectively examine the history and doctrines of TSCC.
What say you?