Posted by:
Doug Wallace
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Date: March 17, 2011 08:04PM
I left the church about 4 years ago. My wife has struggled to maintain status in the ward due to my disaffection. So, when she was called to teach in RS, she was so excited, started going every Sunday again, and doing all the churchy things. I always help her with her lesson because I was the GD teacher when I quit. So on Saturday evening, she asks me to review her lesson. When I'm done, I say "are you trying to stir a hornet nest?" The topic was the WOW, and to spice it up some, she wanted to talk about how there is the core doctrine of the WOW and the cultural WOW, and how they are distinct. In the end, she went with the "keep it Christ-centered" and "the church is for sinners not saints" angle. What she said that pissed so many people off was that "you can still be LDS and smoke/drink/coffee, tea, drugs, etc., and the WOW is a blessing, but you shouldn't feel like you can't come to church if you struggle with one of those items".
Wednesday, the bishop called her in for a 45 minute meeting to scold her for straying from the manual, teaching false doctrine, and that because so many people were offended by her statements, she was being released. He told her "people want to be told what they can and cannot do." She responded "I don't believe God gave us minds to be mindless drones." He responded "Not following the lesson manual leads to apostasy just like your husband, and that's why we are releasing you. We don't want you to abandon the Gospel like he did."
Needless to say, she was very upset. Why can't she see that NOBODY likes her in the ward because she doesn't toe the line. She's too liberal; her Mormonism is too fluid and personal for them. She cries almost daily because she has been ostracized.
When will she realize that the Morg is not healthy for her? It's doubly hard because she, like her father, feels a sense of personal ownership in the Mormon church because she descends from Hyrum Smith, and her family is sooooo entrenched. It breaks my heart.