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SusieQ#1
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Date: August 02, 2014 11:48PM
wow... you're not alone! Your situation is frustrating beyond belief. We have all probably experienced some level of your feelings.
I have suggestions. It's what I do when I get bogged down and being over run.
I change the subject. I change MY thoughts. I concentrate on what gives me the most pleasure, happiness, fun. I find something to do to burn some energy, and shut down the ugly stuff that creeps up.
I remind myself that I am OK, and find a way to find the things I am grateful for and focus on those.
Being married for over 50 years to a believer, I learned to shut up about the church, unless it was something I knew he would enjoy hearing. Maybe a funny joke or something that happened to someone he knew.
I refused to be drawn into any Mormonism talk by anyone, also.
Got good at talking about other things. Interrupting, with..oh.. I almost forgot.. did I tell you that..... !
Now the biggie. Refuse to take any of it personally. Their ideas and positions are about them, not you.
That is where the Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz came in handy!
Second Agreement: Don't Take Anything Personally
“Whatever happens around you, don't take it personally... Nothing other people doAll people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.
Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds…Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up….
But if you do not take it personally, you are immune in the middle of hell. Immunity in the middle of hell is the gift of this agreement. is because of you. It is because of themselves.”
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2010/06/06/the-second-agreement-dont-take-anything-personally/I hope you find some ideas that will benefit you in your current situation and give you hope!
Remember to be good to yourself!!
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 08/02/2014 11:49PM by SusieQ#1.