Posted by:
SusieQ#1
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Date: August 04, 2014 03:09PM
Some possible suggestions:
Limit contact with those that are the most difficult.
Put the worse one/s in "Time Out" and just back off for awhile.
Refuse to be a target.
Refuse to engage.
If you want to say: "I'm sorry" that is all that is needed.
Then be done with it.
Leave the past in the past.
And the biggie? Refuse to take any of it personally.
Here is where I refer to The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz and recommend the 2nd agreement
Don’t take anything personally.
Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.
Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds…Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up….
But if you do not take it personally, you are immune in the middle of hell. Immunity in the middle of hell is the gift of this agreement.
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2010/06/06/the-second-agreement-dont-take-anything-personally/