Posted by:
dogeatdog
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Date: August 15, 2014 01:25AM
Anybody see this:
http://thoughtcatalog.com/samantha-pugsley/2014/08/i-waited-until-my-wedding-night-to-lose-my-virginity-and-i-wish-i-hadnt/I did not wait, but I also did not grow up Mormon. It's something I've thought a lot about though because I have a daughter. I will not encourage her to wait until marriage. On the other hand, I think sex and choosing sexual partners requires a certain amount of responsibility and thoughtfulness. I haven't figured out yet the best way to approach this topic, and it's a good thing I still have quite a bit of time...
Some excerpts:
"For more than a decade, I wore my virginity like a badge of honor. My church encouraged me to do so, saying my testimony would inspire other young girls to follow suit."
"We were together for six years before we got married. Any time we did anything remotely sexual, guilt overwhelmed me. I wondered where the line was because I was terrified to cross it. Was he allowed to touch my breasts? Could we look at each other naked? I didn’t know what was considered sexual enough to condemn my future marriage and send me straight to Hell."
"When we got home, I couldn’t look anyone in the eye. Everyone knew my virginity was gone. My parents, my church, my friends, my co-workers. They all knew I was soiled and tarnished. I wasn’t special anymore. My virginity had become such an essential part of my personality that I didn’t know who I was without it."
"Every single day is a battle to remember that my body belongs to me and not to the church of my childhood...I’m now thoroughly convinced that the entire concept of virginity is used to control female sexuality."