Posted by:
procrusteanchurch
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Date: November 02, 2014 10:24AM
The first time I was called as a counselor in a bishopric, I had been struggling to get a testimony. When a member of the stake presidency issued the call, I felt quite strongly that the call was a result of my faithful diligence and that I would finally receive a testimony. After all, god wouldn't let a counselor serve in the bishopric without giving him a testimony.
Well, it didn't turn out the way I expected, and serving in the bishopric was a big step on my way out of the church.
In one of our first meetings as a bishopric, the bishop reviewed the tithing list and made comments about who had a good year financially and who didn't. This flippant review made me literally feel sick to my stomach since I thought tithing was sacred and should be treated accordingly.
The bishop regularly broke confidences and shared with us private matters he had discussed with members. Even worse, he shared these private matters with his wife, who then disseminated the information among ward members.
The bishop regularly disparaged ward members. In particular, he had a vendetta against the relief society president. The rs president was a particularly nice and caring person, and she was very diligent in fulfilling her calling. However, the rs president made the mistake of the telling the bishop's wife that she shouldn't share confidential information she learned from the bishop. The ward gossip didn't take that feedback very well, so her bishop husband got revenge on the rs president.
Revelation was lacking. In particular, there were several callings that had terrible outcomes, either because the people lacked the capacity to fulfill the callings or because the calling was overwhelming to the person called.
I was suffering from pretty significant cog dis. I knew I needed to support the bishop, but I strongly felt that I was involved in something very wrong by serving in the bishopric. Ultimately, I ended up moving to get out of the bishopric. Stupidest thing I've ever done, and I've always regretted leaving the job I had and essentially flushing my career in that field down the toilet. I couldn't in good conscience continue serving in the bishopric, but I didn't want to the leave the church, and moving seemed to be the only option.
And then, right after moving to the new area, I was called as a counselor in a bishopric again. But that's a story for another day.