Posted by:
ExMoBandB
(
)
Date: December 09, 2014 12:39AM
Welcome, Torturednevermo. You DO belong here! I agree with the poster who said that we all have been either shunned, abused, dis-owned, divorced and worse--by people who we thought once loved us--or should have loved us.
My own parents, and especially my 6-years older brother were abusive. My brother was allowed to beat me up, torture me, break my things, humiliate me in front of my friends, make sexual threats--whatever he wanted--without being punished for it. Mormonism denies, excuses, and even enables abuse, just like my parents did. Our parents had a lot in common, and we have a lot in common.
Sometimes, I feel like I don't "fit in" with the ex-Mormons who had a happy time at church, and good memories of their childhood. Many of these people stumbled on the Truth, and could no longer support a lying cult founded by a polygamist con-man. These people mourn the loss of all their friends, their family, their "tribe" as on poster calls it.
My children and I, on the other hand, were happy to leave! We left before we even knew about the doctrinal and historical lies. We formally resigned when my children told me that the Mormon leaders had been abusing them for several years. These creeps were our neighbors, and pretended to be our friends. When I was away at church playing the organ, they would break into our house and drag my children out of bed, onto the floor, kick them, make them get dressed, shove them down the stairs and into a car, drive them to church and guard them to make sure they didn't leave. (Mormonism is a cult!) I didn't know about this, until one day, I became a caring parent, and asked them, sincerely, exactly why they hated church so much. My youngest little girl told us that the bishop's repulsive high school aged son had tried to molest her, during a church campout. When she screamed, several kids witnessed what the perv was trying to do, and he stopped. The bishop threatened the kids, including my little girl, not to tell. Again, there is support for the perverts and liars, and blame for the victim.
You, and I, and my children, and most of the people on this board, are learning to not blame ourselves, for what the sick cult members did to us. I have PTSD, and maybe you do, too. I wish you could get professional therapy, because that speeds up the healing process. Some of us have more to overcome than others. The support of RFM has made a huge difference in my life! It will help you, too!
Your story made me feel less alone. You give us hope, because you have been healing successfully for years. You have a lot to offer!