Posted by:
imaworkinonit
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Date: December 15, 2014 03:30PM
people who leave. (Lazy, sinned or wanted to sin, lost the spirit, didn't have enough faith, too proud, etc).
You might be able to come up with some standard responses to those accusations. You could respond that the church isn't true, so you aren't obligated to obey or have faith.
Or you could address the fact that their pattern of attacking YOU doesn't make them right, OR make their church true. It just shows that they are intolerant and abusive.
After I left the church, it helped me to read some books by Patricia Evans on emotional abuse. I realized that many of techniques used by TBMs against 'apostates' are straight out of the emotional abusers bag of tricks. They are techniques designed to make you doubt yourself, your perceptions, and your self worth. After reading it, if someone tried one of those techniques on me, I could instantly recognize it for what it was. So instead of making me feel bad, it was like an "AhA" moment. Those behaviors lost their effectiveness because I recognized them for what they were. In fact, sometimes it was rather humorous. Manipulation isn't nearly effective when you recognize it.
http://www.verbalabuse.com/If you have some specific problems with certain people, maybe you could post about it and get suggestions on how to respond next time it happens.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 12/15/2014 03:32PM by imaworkinonit.