Posted by:
Ex-CultMember
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Date: March 20, 2011 02:46PM
I am quite shocked at how often I read on RFM, and other blogs regarding Mormonism, about spouses (women more frequent it seems) that immediately start talking divorce because their spouse loses their testimony and or quits the church.
Do these people even LOVE their spouse?! Do they even see him as their best friend and lover or just part of some component of the the church's requirements for family and ticket to heaven?
The same goes for things like TBM wives catching their husband looking at porn. Sorry, but guys just like looking at naked girls! Its wired into their brain. Its so weird because these TBM women always start thinking about divorce when spouses have a "problem" with porn.
I love my wife so much and even if there were some serious issue she had, I wouldn't automatically start thinking about divorce. I would try to work through whatever problems we had and try to deal with it. Unless my wife suddenly changed in a VERY DRASTIC way like she turned abusive or refused to end an affair she was having, leaving her would be the LAST thing on my mind.
I understand that finding out your spouse losing their testimony can be traumatic, but COME ON its not like they have changed as a person. Its not like they suddenly become a wife-beating, drunken alcoholic, child molester. In most cases they are the SAME person they married. It just makes me ill to think that these people are so ready to just jump ship when their spouse loses their testimony. Do they have NO FEELINGS for their wife/husband??
I could see spouses thinking of divorce if the church encouraged it for cases like "apostasy" but THE CHURCH DOESN'T EVEN RECOMMEND IT!