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Anon....
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Date: January 06, 2015 01:10PM
Are there any guys here with TBM spouses that left the church before blessing and/or baptizing kids? Things are pretty peaceful at home and with the family right now, but looking ahead, it seems like this might just be the calm before the storm.
My TBM wife is expecting and wants the baby to be blessed in church. She knows I won't be doing it, so she's probably going to ask her father to do it. I want to be supportive of her beliefs to some extent, but the thought of the bishop, grandfathers, and uncles blessing MY child to "grow in the priesthood", serve a mission, marry in the temple, be a good influence for his/her apostate father, etc... makes my blood boil. I don't think I'll be able to stand even being there. It also doesn't help that my non-participation will be a proclamation to the gossipy f@#$ing ward that there's something wrong with me. They won't be thinking, "Oh, he must know the truth about the church", they'll be thinking, "Oh, he must be an abuser, addict, etc..."
My oldest is still a ways away from baptism, but I think the primary brainwashing is just starting to take hold. She's all psyched up about learning the articles of faith, having her own BoM, getting baptized, etc... My wife has agreed to let it be her decision, that we won't pressure her, but she takes plenty of opportunities to talk about Jesus getting baptized, etc... I don't know what to do.
I'd encourage her to wait to be baptized until she has her own spiritual confirmation that the BoM/priesthood/church is true, which she'll never get, but the primary, along with my wife, will just come along and say "Jesus was baptized", "Jesus said you should be baptized when you're 8", "Don't you want to be with your family forever?". I feel like I'm heading into a losing battle.
I think most teens would run from the church if given a genuine opportunity to choose for themselves, but younger children are easily manipulated and I don't want to watch my kids go through this. What's the best course of action here? Do I refuse to let her be baptized? Try to get my wife to allow her to choose for herself once she's 12?...18? Do I share more than just my disbelief...dump the ugly facts about the church on her?