Posted by:
knotheadusc
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Date: March 05, 2015 11:05AM
I never had this problem before I married my exmo husband. Before I knew my husband, I had no issues with Mormonism. I was open-minded about most religions and, in fact, had the attitude that people can and should believe whatever they want to believe. But then I met my husband, who was an active Mormon but was kinda on his way out of the faith. Slowly, my eyes opened to the damage and divisiveness of the LDS faith and how it can be used as an effective tool to destroy families.
I watched as my husband's ex wife used Mormonism to drive a wedge between my husband and his kids. She used it as a yardstick by which to measure my worthiness as a person and, more importantly, as my husband's wife. I'd say she also used it to measure my appropriateness as the stepmother of my husband's daughters, but honestly, I think even if I were the most faithful Mormon alive, she would have declared me less of a person because I married her ex husband. For the record, my husband is the sweetest guy I know. He's not LDS anymore, but he certainly didn't need to be Mormon to be awesome. Frankly, I was delighted when he left the church.
So now, having been happily married to my husband for twelve years, I am left with all this knowledge of how toxic Mormonism can be. I end up saying things that make me look "bigoted" to those who don't know anything about the church. Today, in a Facebook group, someone posted this...
http://stopmasturbationnow.orgI had seen this before, probably here on RfM. I thought it was meant to be satire, but wasn't sure, given how Mormons (and other religious people) feel about masturbation. But anyway, I mentioned that Mormons have odd beliefs about masturbation. I say they are odd because I truly do think they are odd. Masturbation is a very normal, healthy thing to do. And I have read so many threads here about people who have been damaged due to being interrogated about their personal masturbation habits. I have heard Mission President Allen Pratt's lecture about avoiding masturbation.
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xd1nzk_mormon-mission-pres-allan-pratt-on_news#from=embediframeAnd I have seen BYU-I's creepy video about rescuing one's roommates from "porn addiction".
But I forget that not everyone knows about this stuff, including many Mormons. So when I mention what I know about it and how I'm glad I wasn't raised LDS (which I truly am), I come off looking "bigoted".
Naturally, someone wanted to confront me over my comment and accused me of "Mormon bashing". I thought about writing all I know, but it turned out there was an inactive Mormon in the group who knew nothing about Mark E. Petersen's advice about how to avoid masturbating or Boyd K. Packer's pamphlet To Young Men Only. While this woman claims to be a "terrible" Mormon, I figured that discussing that stuff would be hurtful and potentially embarrassing to her. So I apologized for bringing it up and said it would be best if I didn't comment more on the subject, even though I look like a bigot. If I'm honest, I think most people are bigots to some degree. And while I don't hate Mormons, I do hate Mormonism. I think I have good reasons to feel the way I do, but I don't want to mess up someone else's faith.
I have a sister who accused me of being bigoted and ignorant because I told her truthfully how I feel about the church. Of course, she doesn't know anything about Mormonism. She only knows some Mormons and thinks they are "nice people". She's seen the clean, family-oriented facade. I feel pretty confident that if she really knew about the church, she wouldn't feel so peachy about it. But since I am her "little sister", she won't listen to me. I'll always be 12 to her.
Just a little a venting...
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 03/05/2015 11:08AM by knotheadusc.