Posted by:
torturednevermo
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Date: March 15, 2015 05:14PM
Axeldc has some fine suggestions, you do have options. However, I’ll add another point of view just to give you some food for thought. These are just my opinions and observation from raising my own two kids.
It’s a tough call. Many people argue about these socialization value judgments the same way they do about politics. Some real contentions exist between what people believe is best for children. Socialization, at two? … hmmm. Should kids be in large groups learning to navigate social hierarchies and becoming little adults by the time they are four years old? Or, should they be traipsing around behind mom at home asking about where ladybugs come from and waving around a stick in the backyard. Good question.
I’m not so much a fan of the baby Einstein crowd myself … and my kids turned out just fine. We actually adjusted our lives to pull them out of daycare when they were young; it turned out to be a bad environment for them. But their grandma was horrified … ‘how will they become socialized’, she would say. ‘How will they learn to share?’ We just found a few acquaintances for the odd play date, and beyond that, they just did what kids have always done throughout history; be kids.
Remember that at Mormon primary they aren’t just eating cookies and singing a harmless song. They are observing attitudes, watching how Mormons treat each others socially, and exposed to lots of things symbolically and subconsciously through observation and osmosis. You will go on a mission. President Monson is the prophet. Mormons are better. Joey’s parents are influenced by Satan … point and stare. You must be temple worthy. No, I wouldn’t want Mormons socializing my kids.
There was only a brief time in human history, right here in America during the post war baby boom of the 50’s and 60’s, when everyone on the street was the same age, the same socio-economic class, and all had kids the same age. We don’t live in such world anymore, and we didn’t before the baby boom either. Kids did just fine. Is a need for socialization at two worth placing them in Mormon primary just to be in a crowd? For me it wouldn’t be. Too damaging I would think.
I was one of those traditional parents who just gave the kids crayons, and toys, spent some time with them, and watched them wave a stick around the backyard hopping about happily. I’m the ‘let kids be kids’ type, even allowing some TV sometimes. My daughter loved ‘the jungle book’ on in the background while she played and listened to the songs, stopping to watch her occasional favorite part. My son didn’t care for TV so much, he liked ‘things’ to play with at all times, so we got him ‘things’. Every day that they didn’t catch fire, or I hadn’t stuffed them into the freezer out of frustration, was a good day.
Others will maybe disagree with my value judgments abut the need to socialize two year olds. However, my kids (teens now) are doing just fine. They actually don’t seem to be suffering from any of the socialization issues that many of their ‘daycare’ peers do seem to struggle with. Go figure … maybe we actually did something right. You do what you can. When they are a little older they can find more activities to join, ours did (dance, scouting, etc).
Anyway, good luck with your quest. They sure don’t come with a manual, do they!