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Vote for Pedro
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Date: April 23, 2015 10:16AM
I'm a few weeks away from marking the second anniversary of my departure from Mormonism. I didn't resign, mostly for family reasons, but I clearly stated to the local leadership that there was to be no contact with my family. So far they've honored my request with only one exception: A random evening visit from the mishies at almost exactly the one-year mark.
It wasn't much of a conversation. We were busy getting the kid to bed. I stood in the doorway and told them we had asked for no contact, and please make a note of it in their records. They said something about "there's a process, and it's name removal bla bla bla." I told them I'd think about it and let them know, but that they were still requested not to visit or contact us.
I was mad about how flustered I got. I wasn't friendly with them, but I was fairly restrained and didn't tell them off or anything. But I was mad about totally shutting down and not being able to say anything to them except something along the lines of "I told you to leave me alone, so please don't come back."
As the date approaches, I'm wondering if they'll come back again. I feel like I've recovered a bit more in the last year, but I still don't know if I could handle it any differently this time around.
I'm not sure how I WANT the meeting to go, if they show up. I feel sorry for the kids. I know exactly what it's like to be them. I was a good missionary for two years in a horrible place pushing religion on people who needed food and marketable skills far more than they needed the Mormon Mind-Screw. I was miserable almost the entire time and never could figure out why. Of course, now I know. So I guess I'd just like to be "recovered" enough to engage them meaningfully and compassionately and maybe plant a seed and let them know it's okay to just walk away and it's not their fault that being on a mission sucks.
Of course, it probably won't make any difference and it's probably a waste of time to engage them at all. But I'm kind of tired of them controlling the message, and if they come by my house uninvited then they deserve a piece of my mind, don't they? Why should their "beliefs" be immune to rational criticism? I'm tired of religion getting a free pass, in general, and the insidious and obvious lies of Mormonism in particular.
Mostly, I just don't want to have the involuntary cognitive shutdown I experienced the last time I saw them. I want to be ready and able to stand up for myself on my own turf this time.
Is it even worth the effort? Or should I just not waste any time on them and plan on calmly telling them to go away, like I would the JWs or any other cultist nutjobs that showed up on my doorstep? Any suggestions?