Posted by:
DebbiePA
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Date: May 02, 2015 09:56PM
A couple of days ago I found out my daughter is going to be in a wedding, not as a bridesmaid, but as a "groomsmaid," standing up with her best friend, who happens to be a guy. These two have been best friends since high school, and although I always secretly hoped it would turn into something more, she once told me "ew, that would be like dating my brother." So through thick and thin they have been friends and now, on his very special day, he's asked her to stand up with him. She's so excited and honored to do so.
And this applies to Mormonism...of course, what else? Those awful, secret, rote, non-romantic Mormon weddings and how nothing like this ever could happen in a TBM family.
I've said it many times. Even though it was 35 years ago and I'm long divorced, I still feel awful about the way my family wasn't allowed to attend my stupid temple wedding. Not that it would have been anything to see...no flowers, music, candles, or vows that were about me and husband and our love for each other. No, it was kneeling across from each other over an alter vowing to be faithful Mormons. Bleh.
I'm so glad my children will never experience what I went through for their weddings. The girls get to choose their dresses based on what they find attractive, not on what covers up garment sleeves. They can write their own vows, pick their own venues, have music and flowers, and have adult beverages at the reception, which will definitely not be on a church basketball court. And EVERYBODY they want to be there will be invited.
Anyway, my daughter says she will not have to wear a tux, in case you're wondering, as I was. But I'm tickled for her and her dear friend. Can't wait!