Posted by:
Tal Bachman
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Date: May 22, 2015 03:02PM
Itzpalotl: You are perfectly free to reprise Dana Carvey's "Church Lady" act on here if you want. I certainly can't stop you. I am only suggesting that it's unbecoming, and is only an inverted image of Mormon Relief Society sniping, and helps make life suck for everyone who's not doing everything in your "one true way" because they have very different needs than you.
Once you get out of your university brainwashing classes (which I assume you're in, because that's the Holy Temple of Secular Church Lady-ism), you will find that people - you know, human beings - come in many different forms, and therefore, find joy in human relationships in many different ways.
And you fill find that for many, "relationship power balance" is not a consideration, because for them, other things are far more important: romance, security, belonging, devotion, fidelity, direction, clarity, novelty, or a hundred other things. And you will even find that those people don't *want* to start thinking about "power balances", because that will help disrupt something they already find beautiful and fulfilling. And you will find no good grounds for thinking those people have been "brainwashed" any more than you, or anyone else, has been. What you will find instead is a multiplicity of different need profiles, which may or may not have arisen from all different sorts of influences, biological and non-biological.
To assume that "power imbalance", however you might personally define it, is, or ought to be, the most important value in a relationship represents just another expression of "one-true-itis". And even if we granted that it is "the one true most important value", it is pretty much impossible to measure from the outside. Bullying knows no age or sex, and is not necessarily overt anyway; and what goes on behind closed doors might be quite different to what we can observe from the outside.
In the end, I'd just say: how about we just live and let live?
Just my two cents.