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Posted by: Twinker ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 08:19PM

It has been suggested that people are leaving tscc at an accelerated rate.

If you've resigned or just stopped going, how recently did you leave?

Within the last few months?
Within the last year?
2-3 years ago?
4-5 years ago?
5-10 years ago?
More than 10 years?

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Posted by: Greyfort ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 08:46PM

I went permanently inactive sometime I think in 2004. I sent in my resignation letter in 2009, which took 5 months to get processed. I had to fight for it.

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Posted by: Anonymous User ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 08:53PM

It will be 15 years this November since I left. I haven't been able to legally resign because of family obligations & pressure.

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Posted by: Senoritalamanita ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 09:18PM

I left physically the minute I graduated from college at age 22.

Returned to LDS Church very briefly (like 10 minutes) in my mid 30s.

Written resignation at 48, which was 10 years ago.

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Posted by: Cartman ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 09:23PM

I stopped going when I graduated from college in 2000. My parents were paying for college so I figured I would go to church since that is what they would want.

It was during my mission and my last 2 years of college that I started to realize that I was not a believer. Nothing added up for me. The whole idea of God just seemed like Bullshit. I even told my roommate that I thought God was as real as the Easter bunny.

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Posted by: finallygetsit ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 09:25PM

2-3 years. Although I haven't been to church in over 2 1/2 years, I haven't officially resigned yet. However, both my DH & DD HAVE, resigned. (I'm so happy for them. And slightly jealous.)

By the time I had discovered/realized the truth about tscc, my father's health was already deteriorating quickly - he passed away last summer.

My mom's health is also not good, and she's been through so much already with my father that I felt it would just be selfishness on my part to lay all this on her at this time. No reason to have her worry needlessly about where I'm going to end up in the "eternities."

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Posted by: Haunted Wasatch ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 09:29PM

I have not been to my Ward since late 2012. My shelf broke in Jan 2013. First coffe in Feb 2013, first glass of wine in June 2013.

Hope to resign this year if I can get my affairs in order.

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Posted by: sportsguy ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 09:52PM

I checked out mentally about 10 years ago, stopped going 1 year ago, and haven't resigned due to wife's request not to.

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Posted by: hawk ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 10:06PM

One month ago. I had been struggling for about half a year before that. Only took me a week to make up my mind after opening up to the possibility that it might not be true.

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Posted by: Texas Sue ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 10:15PM

Knew it was a fraud 10 months ago, stopped attending 5 months ago. My husband and I will be formally resigning soon.

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Posted by: exmember5000 ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 10:16PM

2010

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Posted by: iknowthischurchisfalse ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 10:18PM

Late January of 2007.

Would have left sooner a month before but I had to go to a reception for "my best friend." It was held 2 months before in another state. Why'd he have to do that?

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Posted by: Pista ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 10:24PM

Left about ten years ago, officially resigned in 2008.

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Posted by: wanderer ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 10:27PM

I stopped attending about four years ago, but I didn't start to question the church until last month. Now I'm planning on never going back, and at some point I will be officially resigning.

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Posted by: CristiB (AKA frtl mrtl) ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 10:30PM

The wrecking ball blind-sided me on my birthday in 2005. I compromised with my husband and attended (albeit in the hallways or mommy lounge, or with the exception of the 9 months I was pretending to believe so I could go to girl's camp - which didn't happen) for the next year. But the last straw was when the bishop said my oldest daughter and I could not go, though the stake had invited us.

Since then I've only darkened the doorway once - for my oldest daughter's wedding. And, I've now lost any reason to have to drive past, so I haven't even seen the parking lot for almost two years!

So, for me, I left because of information just under 10 years ago (June), emotionally 9 years ago, and no I haven't resigned yet, because of my husband asking me not to.

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Posted by: unworthy ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 10:32PM

1960

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Posted by: want2bx ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 10:34PM

I quit going January 1, 2014. It was a New Year's resolution and the only one I've ever made. I've been to church three or four times since then for family things. I don't miss it at all.

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Posted by: catnip ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 10:36PM

Found this website in the summer of 2004. I resigned in early December of that same year and got my "You're outta here" letter the following February.

No regrets. My TBM husband stopped attending when I resigned because he did not want to cause a problem in our marriage (he is a gem, if I say so myself, and I most emphatically do!)

Since then, we have attended various churches. He remains a devout Christian, but is no longer under the spell of Mormonism. I have never pushed him to resign; I respect his integrity far too much to do that. But he may do it of his own accord. He is seriously disillusioned by all the BS about Mormonism that has been exposed over the years. He has seen for himself that other churches offer worship but not dictatorship.

I think that we are more in love than ever because of the adventures we have shared since my resignation.

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Posted by: cpete ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 10:40PM

20 years ago. "Native Hebrew Americans" unbelievable. Still on tscc roster, not my problem. Been lurking on rfm for 6 months. What a joke the cult is.

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Posted by: veggirl ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 10:50PM

14 months ago...have no plans to go back..haven't resigned bc of DH family. He was basically a Bic and doesn't go either...we have a nearly 8 year old so let the fun begin haha

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Posted by: saucie ( )
Date: May 24, 2015 11:31PM

I left about 14 years ago and I've never looked back.

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Posted by: Heartless ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 12:31AM

1987

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Posted by: Devoted Exmo ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 12:34PM

It was a good year. That's when I left too.

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Posted by: ookami ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 12:32AM

I resigned in the summer of 2012.

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Posted by: SusieQ#1 ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 12:37AM

Backed out in the 1999 time frame. Official resigned June 2002.

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Posted by: Inky ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 12:39AM

I left in August 2012 with my kids. My husband left in March 2013. We are the happiest we have ever been.

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Posted by: Slumbering Minstrel ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 01:02AM

Stopped attending May of 2013, officially resigned May 22, 2015.

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Posted by: siflbiscuit ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 01:22AM

Sent resignation over a week ago. Haven't gone in two to three years.

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Posted by: heat27 ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 01:41AM

Resigned may 2013

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Posted by: Abaddon-notloggedin ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 01:41AM

About 2012

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Posted by: bakagayjin ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 04:22AM

Declared myself as a non believer and atheist to my bishop at BYU last September, I will be sending my resignation letter this coming September.

If you wanted 'faith journey' length, mine was approximately 1 year start to finish due to being on my mission and not having access to information. Once I got my hands on information (in other words, beginning the moment I got home), it took me 1 week to determine the church was provably false, then a few months to gather the courage to come out to family about it.

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Posted by: michaelc1945 ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 08:01AM

The trek out started about 25 years ago; the official resignation was in '96 or '97.

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Posted by: sonoma ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 08:07AM

1988 while at BYU.

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Posted by: seekyr ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 09:40AM

Completely stopped going around 1982.

Wow, it seems like my LDS life was for SO LONG, but really, I was just in the church from age 11 to 25 - just 14 years. And I've been out of the church for the past 33 years!

I never added it up. I guess those 14 years were very formative ones, though. Or should have been. It was probably more stunting than formative.

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Posted by: 2thdoc ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 09:54AM

It was probably around 2006 when the light came on and I realized it was all a scam. I kept attending (because of my TBM wife) until I just couldn't endure it any more. I haven't set foot in a Mormon building since the end of 2009. I don't foresee any resignation letter in my future because it would hurt my wife.

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Posted by: wanderinggeek ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 09:59AM

1 1/2 years ago. Nov 2013 is when I found out the truth. I informed my DW in Dec and my Bishop in Jan.

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Posted by: jollybeard ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 10:39AM

Serious doubts: 2008
Shelf-crash: 12/2010
Quit attending: 10/2014
Resignation/excommunication: TBD

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Posted by: Lethbridge Reprobate ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 11:06AM

Left- 1971
Resigned- 2012

RB

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Posted by: Itzpapalotl ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 12:01PM

Stopped attending church in fall of '97 while attending BYU. Still have no idea how I managed that and not got called into the bishop's office. Found this site and learned how to resign in 2001.

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Posted by: leftfield ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 12:26PM

In 2002 I gave my bishop and stake president a year to convince me to stay.
In 2003 I quit going.
In 2008 I resigned officially.
A few years after that I found this site and realized I wasn't the only one.

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Posted by: madalice ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 12:32PM

November 2011. Family of 4 all left together.

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Posted by: blueorchid ( )
Date: May 25, 2015 12:52PM

1973 while at BYU just after the mission.

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