Posted by:
Mnemonic
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Date: March 23, 2011 03:59AM
As important is "the church" says families are, it sure makes them dysfunctional and co-dependent. Dysfunctional families have an interesting group dynamic because instead of functioning like a group of individuals, they function more like parts within a machine. Each individual takes on a specific roll and is expected to perform that roll by the rest of of the group whether or not that roll is what that person wants or needs. If one member of the family tries to make changes, everybody other member of the family gets upset because those changes make them change as well.
I'm probably not doing a very good job explaining this so here are some links for you to read:
http://www.mudrashram.com/dysfunctionalfamily2.htmlhttp://www.joy2meu.com/DysfunctionalFamilies.htmhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dysfunctional_familyWhether LDS parents realize it or not, many are abusive because they force their children to "live the gospel" at all costs and without regard to what is best for the child. This is a type of abuse and should be looked at in that way.
What is important is that you find that path that works for you. If that path can include "intersections" where you come together with family members then great and if it doesn't then that is okay too. It's about your journey through life, not the journey others want you to take. My path is not your path. Every person's path is unique, just like they are.
One final note, counseling will help immensely to help you examine your life and decide what it is you want and need and how best to go about getting it. Remember, it doesn't matter where you start your journey, but when. You can't change what has happened in the past. All you can do is learn from it and use those lessons to help guide your future. Don't live your life in the past (kind of like driving down the road looking in the rear-view mirror). The future is ahead of you and that is where you should be focused.
Good luck.