Posted by:
kingbenjamin
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Date: July 17, 2015 03:38PM
We've grown to love our tiny little Utah town since leaving Mormonism. Everyone is nice. We can get to know people at our own leisure, or we can just not get to know them if they're weirdos. It's not like that in the church. You don't get to choose whom you interact with. That is chosen for you in the form of "callings."
My heart broke for an immigrant woman--from Europe--a few days ago, who is in the other ward in town. She had no idea we left the church. It's not something I talk about unless someone asks. She said the people at church are terrible to her, and because we are move-ins, she wanted to know how we've learned to deal with it.
I told her I never had any major problems with the people. I told her that we left the church because of the doctrines and practices of the church, but that we love the people. I also told her that an added blessing was that we don't feel obligated to interact with backbiting, terrible people.
It only takes a small group of 4 or 5 prominent assholes to make the LDS Ward a miserable community. When you leave the church, you can love the people you want to love, and not pretend to care about the ones who treat everyone like shit. It's nice.