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Date: September 24, 2015 11:46AM
There is no reason for her to meet with anyone she doesn't want to. It is often very difficult in these situations to realize that SHE is in control, not them. They have absolutely no hold over her whatsoever. As RPackham stated above, legally, she's already out. The moment they received that paperwork, she was done with them. The rest is busy work FOR THEM and their records.
They will do everything they can to keep her on their roles, why? Because they want her money, her regular tithing check. By resigning membership she's officially telling them that they will no longer be getting that check from her. They really want that check. By resigning, they stop actively tracking her whereabouts and sending hapless ward members to check in on her to basically ask for that check.
So of course their policy is to try to make people meet face to face with someone when they resign. It's much harder to say no to someone's face, even if you don't like that person. The church knows this, so they do everything they can to make it happen.
So, what can she do:
- Ignore the requests to meet. They will eventually process their paperwork (last I heard it was within 2 months) and she'll receive the "Ok, you're out" letter from HQ.
- Contact HQ, either by mail, or phone, I think the number is still listed on the resignation page (see link on the main page) and tell them that you are being harassed by local leadership and you want it to stop and that you want your paperwork processed.
- Contact local leadership and say, we won't be meeting, process my paperwork now. If that doesn't work, you can threaten legal action, citing the case that allows members to resign and or threaten to go to local news and state that your former church won't let you leave.
- Go ahead and meet with them. Set the location to a public place, like Starbucks. Show up early, order a drink of your choice (to go), when they arrive, hand them a copy of your resignation letter, tell them you expect it to be processed promptly and leave.
Really, there are all kinds of ways to handle this, it's whatever she's comfortable with. She is in control of this. It is her life and the church will do everything they can to maintain whatever control over her that they can. It's what they do. The sooner she realizes this the sooner she can start living her life, rather than the one the church wants her to.