Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: February 09, 2016 05:17AM
I'm an expert at being a lone introvert. I lived alone for several years, while my children were away at college. They would come for visits, but I was convinced that they would never move home again. So--I did have children. And, my kids left behind their old black lab. So--I did have a great dog.
If you are looking for something extreme, like a sensory-deprivation chamber, or a depressing place like a closet to sit in and cry all weekend, you are off track.
I love "solitude" on the weekends. It's peaceful, restful, rejuvenating, and it does re-charge my batteries. The key to my happiness is BALANCE. Because you are among people so much, and, as I recall, you have a large family, you will appreciate being left alone so much more! Often, in my solitary times, I plan my next social activity--is that counter-productive? Alone-time is valuable in getting to know who you are, and what you want. Life is always changing, and you are always growing. Maybe you want different things than you did before. You might find it interesting. Return and report!
You might have to tell a lie, and then live to back it up. For example, tell everyone you have the flu. Then you wouldn't dare go to the party and expose everyone. I once avoided my abusive brother, who wanted to stay at my house, by telling him my children and I would be leaving town, and needed to keep the house locked because of the dog. My brother was pushy, and told me he was coming, anyway. I sent my kids off to friends overnight, and locked the house, and turned off all the lights. I didn't have anyplace to go--people don't understand abuse, and I was embarrassed. I cowered in my back, upstairs bedroom, while my brother yelled and pounded on the door for about an hour. He even got the neighbors, and they came to my front door with my brother. Finally, they were all convinced I was out of town. I had plugged in timers to turn certain lights on and off, let the mail pile up, like I wasn't home. I let the dog out every night and early morning, when I knew my brother would be sleeping. He came back to the house twice more, on that visit.
I don't know if you want to go into complete hiding, or just "retrench" for a few days. Grocery shop ahead of time, in order to avoid running into people in the stores. Cook yourself your favorite "dinners for one", and use crystal and silver, if you have it. Pamper yourself. We all have friends who go to health spas whenever they feel like it. Give yourself a facial, mani, and pedi. Don't answer the phone. Don't watch the news. I consider the news to be outside contact. Read, instead. Go outside into nature. Go to a different beach, where no one knows you.
Movies on TV are the best! If you stay in your pajamas, that will keep you from sneaking out of your house. Wear CUTE newest most favorite pajamas, take a long, hot bath, wash your hair--otherwise you will get depressed.
In my alone times, I was happier if I accomplished something--nothing huge, but tackle those little tasks that have been bugging you for months, like washing the windows, mending clothes, clearing out the clutter in your drawers and cabinets. At the end of your lonely time, you'll have a nice pile of things to donate to Goodwill. Do something nice for someone else, if you can. Sing, dance, be free, because no one is there to watch you, or to judge you. See what happens!