Posted by:
Snowy
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Date: February 09, 2016 04:19PM
Let it go! Let it go! Just kidding, not THAT Frozen. Lol.
I have only posted a few times here, but already a few people have picked up on my problem with boundaries and people-pleasing.
Anyway, I have been on a several-month people-pleasing binge, and it's starting to take enough of a toll that I'm getting angry with myself, which in this case I think is a good thing, as it's turning into a motivator to change.
One thing that has me mad right now is knowing how much I freeze up and not do anything. Out of an underlying fear of disapproval, I end up not pursuing my own goals. I don't want to hear other people's criticisms. And/or I feel like I "should" (there is that word I hate!!) keep my time free so that if they say "jump" I can jump. I look around me, and I'm currently noticing all the things I have put off or pushed aside, and how I've neglected myself.
I saw a Rotary Club sign at the park last week, and their slogan said Service Above Self, and it just made me angry. What a nice sentiment, sure, but I struggle so hard to do that in a healthy way that my slogan is probably Service To Everyone Else All The Time No Matter What And To Hell With Your Self.
Anyway, I guess I will channel my anger into courage. The courage to say no.