Posted by:
Invisible Woman
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Date: February 13, 2016 11:14PM
Oh--I so feel like a loner--especially driving home just now, past crowded restaurants, on Saturday-Before-VD-Eve--home to a dark house and a dog.
For some strange reason, I'm happier than I've ever been. I don't have to pretend to be popular, or intelligent, or talented, or special in any way. Both my parents were from Mormon Royalty, and they looked like movie stars. My father was on the BYU football team, and a gifted business man. My mother was a ballet dancer--on the stage--and was offered a movie contract. Of course, they expected me to be amazing, too.
Maybe part of my alone-ness is that I've always known the truth about myself. Minus the nice clothes, house, car, good manners, good grades, being pleasing to others--I always felt like a fraud, inside. The truth is, that I am nothing.
I really identify with those of you who never felt you belonged, even when you were active TBM's.
I seriously worry about myself, and Ohio State, Gone Girl, Cl2, Satan's sister, and other ex-Mormons who don't enjoy being around Mormons at all. I have a serious question:
Are we becoming full of hate, just like the Mormons? I hope we haven't come this far and worked so hard, just to end up being snarky, prejudiced, and judgmental, after all. For example, I feel very uncomfortable socializing with a group of Mormons--to the point I feel almost sick. They will make a racist comment, or make fun of someone who is handicapped, or rip on gay people, and I actually feel my heart-rate speed up! I don't like confrontation, so I just stand there awkwardly, planning my exit.
Once I escape, I don't go back, either. Last Christmas was one of my happiest Christmases ever--and I didn't go to any of the parties. I sat home and babysat my grandchildren.
Am I getting early-onset Alzheimer's? Do I have Asperger's like my brother?
Here's a good point:
When we quit the Mormon cult, we suddenly have more free time, in which to pursue the hobbies and activities we love. We are no longer TOLD what to like (such as RS crafts and genealogy) and told what to hate (political and environmental activism, music that is not LDS, R Movies). OK. My favorite hobbies are reading, gardening, hiking with my dog, exercising and staying fit, playing the piano, re-modeling our house. The point is, all of these activities are done ALONE!
The only socializing I choose, is with my family. Other socializing is draining and depressing. I come home wishing I had never gone to that place. We need to appreciate our inner happiness. Solitude is under-rated!