Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: February 19, 2016 07:44PM
Sorry, I've got go leave, before reading the other posts, here.
I just want to warn you, that if you separate from your sister, your sister could use that against you. My brother cheated me and our other siblings out of most of our inheritance, by bad-mouthing us to our parents. My crook brother pretended to be a perfect Mormon RM, husband (my other brother didn't marry), and Holy Man. Our friends used to laugh and call him "Golden Boy." Golden Boy was a psychopath.
My siblings and I were good people, and good Mormons, but Golden Boy, being older, rose higher up in the church than we did. When he became a Bishop, it was all over. My husband left me for another woman, and my brother used that against me, brutally. He even tried to take away my house because Dad had loaned me some money to make a few payments. I quickly hired an attorney.
No--do not be the bad-guy in this.
For reasons more important than money, out of jealousy, your sister will turn your mother against you. Your sister will upset your mother, and maybe make her sick over this.
You are in a corner, and you must gain your sanity by yourself, quietly. Set up boundaries. See your mother without your sister being there. If your mother is well enough, invite her over to your own house or out to a restaurant, without your sister. Be very busy with your own life, and make good, vague excuses not to be with your sister. "I can't talk right now--I'm driving somewhere." "I'm busy, sorry." "I might be coming down with a cold." Make and keep those boundaries. With your mother, say, "I don't want to talk about my sister right now--tell me about the book you are reading...." Change the subject of your sister and your relationship. Do not let your sister force your mother to take sides.