Posted by:
Mike T.
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Date: February 19, 2016 06:58AM
DW is Relief Society president. DW is demure and deferential woman--a doormat, if you will--whom people think very well of because she never makes waves, only says yes. Although she is middle-aged, she chose two young women as counselors in order to connect better with the younger ward members. Both counselors are also affluent.
In this context, one of her RS women was going in for major surgery, and asked for some support, some meals to be brought over, etc. So DW contacted her "compassionate service counselor" to organize meals for a few nights. Instead, the compassionate service counselor texted the woman and said stuff like, "What? Can't get your husband off his fat ass to prepare a meal or two? Can't have your teenagers go pick up some take-out?"
The woman who was scheduled for surgery was understandably incensed, and called and screamed at my wife. DW, in her demurring way, tried to play both sides of the issue. Then her counselor called and began yelling at her from the other side. When DW asked me what should she do, I said that, in my eyes, the RS was supposed to be aaaaaallll about compassion, and serving your "sisters in Zion," and similar bullshit, and that meant having each other's backs. If this woman getting surgery was expecting a few days of difficulty ahead, it was not DW's place to be the judge, only to make the service happen. I also reminded her that she and the bishop were always being gamed by three women who have been getting the RS to provide free food and house cleaning for years, all the while having live-in boyfriends and grown children at home. If they could rationalize that, why couldn't they rationalize bringing food over to a sister who had surgery? "Where's the damn compassion?", I asked.
Anyway, what happened was that the "compassionate service" woman called up and said, "I quit. That woman has a gun. I'm afraid. I don't want to deal with people like her." Now DW is all flummoxed and bewildered because she has to find another counselor, and still has to decide (yes, she hasn't decided) what to do about the woman who wants a few meals brought in. Oh, the drama of being in the Lord's Only True Church.