Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: February 27, 2016 12:17AM
You are right, lookingatlife...
I love it when posters find their own answers within themselves! You have great wisdom and understanding, for someone so young!
The Mormon cult is causing your mother even more unhappiness than it is causing you. I'm glad you understand this. Your mother has been brainwashed into thinking that having a child leave the cult is the worst failure a parent can have. This statement is a blatant lie, but your mother believes this.
You are lucky to have your father in your corner!
Be kind. Pick your battles. You understand that telling your mother The Truth about the Mormon lies will not change her at all, right? Debating with her will only make her dig in her heels more, and cry more.
Put Mormonism in its place! It's a tiny, corrupt, made-up religion for the purpose of getting money out of people. You belong to the 99.9% of the population that is not Mormon, and this should not be an issue in your relationships. Your mother needs to grow up, stop being obsessed with Relief Society, and see all the other aspects of life that really do matter, such as "unconditional love." She is the one who is going to be unhappy, not you.
Do other things with her, like go out to lunch, a movie, shopping, out for a frozen yogurt, work together in the garden, walk the dog--here I go again, naming all the happy things in life that have nothing to do with Mormonism!
Maybe your personal boundaries can be un-spoken, but merely acted upon. Leave the room when your mother starts pestering you. When she corners you, you can keep repeating, softly and politely, but like a broken record, "I'm not going to church." That message can be said many different ways, and you never have to follow it up with an excuse or apology. You have freedom of religion in this country. Yes, memorize and use the 11th Article of Faith.
Be patient.
Take your time with your own beliefs, too. I was so devastated to find out that Mormonism was a hoax, that I decided to temporarily suspend my beliefs in God and Christ, until I could understand all the Joseph Smith lies. It didn't take me long to realize that JS had nothing at all to do with God or Christ. JS just used them to sell his cult. Luckily, I was a TBM who grew up practically memorizing the Bible--loved the Bible, hated the BOM--now I know why. Without Mormonism to muddy the waters, Christianity makes me happy and "uplifted." God is Love.
Even if you end up rejecting God, you will gain a new appreciation of Love, and the basic goodness of the human race. Either way, you win! I wish you love and happiness!
Oh, and don't marry a Mormon!