Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: March 30, 2016 02:08AM
People who "think the worse of your life choices and expect/hope for you to be miserable" are my definition of "enemies."
No wonder it feels "shitty" around them.
Now that your eyes are opened, and you know their true motives for reaching out to you, in whatever lame way they are doing this, you can decide if you want them in your life, or not.
I don't know these people, but you know them well enough to figure out just how much you need them in your life. It sounds selfish, but it is really self-preservation. These are "enemies," who want bad things to happen to you, in order to validate their own beliefs. You already know that the cult comes first with Mormons.
I tried for many years, even before leaving, because people love to gossip about divorced people. I was moral, faithful, had several callings at once, and tried so hard--but my life took a "different" turn, and like vultures, the Mormons were there to pick me apart. I had to stand up to them, to stop them from hitting, shoving, and kicking my children, to stop the priesthood leaders from breaking into my house, when I wasn't there, to force my children to go to cult meetings. This is also "enemy" behavior!
Some of our experiences in the cult were extreme, and maybe this made my decisions easy--the decision to leave the cult and take my children with me, and, later--the decision that I could not continue being friends with these enemies. I slowly, stepped backwards out of their lives, out of view, out of contact. I didn't give them any information about me and my children, because they can use information against you, as a basis for all kinds of gossip.
We didn't hide. We just shut up. Mormons have eyes, and they saw our house being added onto and improved. They saw all of us working together on our pretty flowers. They was the new cars and boat in the driveway. They see grandchildren and friends coming and going. Since you can't hide your life, be proud of it. So what if someone reports to your in-laws--it's a convenient way of shoving your happiness and success in their face--and you don't have to think about it.
Let them go. I'm so much happier without critical, demanding, needy Mormons in my life It was all take, take, take, take, without giving love or friendship back. Let them feed off of each other.