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You don't know me
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Date: May 02, 2016 09:31AM
I think it may not be salvageable.
I really wish I could lay it all at the feet of Joseph Smith. Sure, he made things much worse, but if I'm honest, he's just a sideshow.
She neither trusts, nor respects me. She won't talk to me about anything, because I'm mean and yell about how wrong she is. She tells me things that aren't so, without much remorse. She can't apologize - really apologize. Sorry, but it was really your fault! She can only sympathize with her tribe. Even then, it takes her effort (and I'm not in the tribe).
There's more, but I don't have the inclination to go on.
I'm not perfect. I don't always put her first. I read that in a relationship both parties need to do more than half. Sometimes I don't quite get to half.
I'm not interested in enduring. Life is both too short and too long for that. Enduring looks like the best we can do. The kids see it. And they're scared. Rightly so.
Counseling hasn't solved it yet. I don't know that it can, since it's all my fault.
The worst thing, is that I'm hopeful. Things will get worse before they get better, but they will get better. Either we reconnect and meet each other's needs, or we part ways and I don't have to be steerage class any more. Either way is better.
Right now, being apart sounds better. And that makes me really sad.