Posted by:
demoneca
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Date: May 10, 2016 06:41PM
Here is an experience I had with what you are asking about. I think Mormons don't understand non-Mormons and form false conclusions about them. Many are quick to judge and make faulty assumptions about those who are not like them.
A few years ago, one of the combined YW lessons was an activity about the differences between Mormon moms and non-member moms. Many of the young women took this as an opportunity to rip apart non-Mormon moms, who were described as: "Doesn't have the gospel, gets her hair and nails done every week (self-centered, superficial), spoiled, worldly, nice, and thoughtful." The girls who came up with the mean descriptions were laughing and having a good time making fun of non-member moms. I was furious at how poorly they secretly felt about their school friends' moms. I threw in one of the kind words, describing my own mother. They were also fully aware I was a non-member, so by default my mother was not either. I had to feel bad for the foreign exchange student with us as well (I'm positive she wasn't a member). Their demeanor changed when they described Mormon moms as: "Prayerful, humble, fun, busy, pretty, beautiful, loving, reads the BoM, devoted, and gentle." Instead of laughing, they took on a reverent tone. Thankfully, the leaders got the lesson back on track; the goal the leaders intended was to show that only difference between the the moms was a lack of Mormon gospel. Unfortunately, the girls soured the lesson.
If the teens grow up into adults like this, then I am not surprised at the exclusiveness of a lot of adult members. I'm not surprised if many members feel this way about non-members. I feel that it would tone down in adulthood, but the disapproval remains.